The catchup & the news

So how did the dinner went with Ruth?

At the start, we spent like 1/2hr ordering.. well Ruth did anyways. We met up at Glen Waverley at a Chinese Restaurant. I think she was taking her time to order too because there was some awkwardness at the start.

Anyways, we started to catch up on the long lost months. Then finally when we moved onto to my GJs to have my fav. pina colada smoothie (the best smoothie in the world!), we finally got talking on our friendship. Where it went wrong. She actually told me 'hey let's agree to disagree' but I told her, we can't pretend none of this happened. Rather, I want u to be open with me on where it went wrong. otherwise we will once again build this fake f/ship and when another incident happen, our f/ship is flushed down the toilet again. So I did most of the talking and she just nodded and realised where she went wrong. How wrong all of her interpretations were. She just sat there in silence.

We also talked about relationships in general. I told her about mine and she told me about hers. Then the unthinkable happened. I told her how true colours starts to show when u hit 1yr and then when u hit 2yrs, that's your make or break time. Ruth then replied 'so what happens if it's before 1 yr?' then I told her, only you will know. She then said 'what happens if he proposes before 1yr?' and straight away I asked her 'are you engaged?'. She said 'yes'. Sam proposed to me last Monday.

Never in my life had I picture her telling me she's engaged in such a subtle, unexpected way like the way she did tonight. I was blatantly obvious to her too that I wasn't as happy as I should be for her (eg. not like when I heard Wong and Lee Wei got engaged! I was over the moon for them). The main reason? well because her 'fiancee' is a strong Hindu and she's a strong Catholic. As much as he says he will change for her, the truth is, when u are married.. which is FOR LIFE, true colours will show and issues esp on religion will surface. I have seen it times and times again in my girlfriends life and even my aunty's life where one is a Christian the other is either nothing or Budhist or some other religion. The more they fall in love with God, the more their marriage falls apart. You then end up in a situation where it's either all God and no marriage or half God and half marriage and it's usually the latter. It's sad, but that's the consequences they will have to pay for choosing this path in their life. Sam is soooo spiritual. How can she expect him to not have his shrines and idols up and perform his prayer rituals every morning? After all, this is part of who he is. His God is part of Him. Maybe he says he will do it b/c he loves her very much and he's willing to sacrifice that, but I have no doubt once they are married, things will change. Esp when things gets tough. After all, they've only dated for 7 months and they're still in their honeymoon stage. Time and time again, I've seen her rush into a r/ship and be head over heels in the first year. Then come the 2nd, everything falls apart and poor Ruth breaks too with it. I told her to not be too naive and really prepare herself for the worse. On top of that, she's not receiving any blessings from her parents of this decision either. In fact her mum's so upset with the news, she's not talking to her for over a week now. I told Ruth, I don't hate your parents for treating you the way they are cos they know how a marriage works and esp when it comes to religion, it plays such a big role in it. As much as you don't want to hear it, the truth is we love you too much to let you make a decision that could potentially make you even more unhappy in the long term.

She told me she understood and she will chew on my words and really think about her future with Sam. I told her to just take it slow. Find out more about him especially on the area of his beliefs and spirituality and then determine whether or not he is willing to full heartedly give up all of his idols for her and even the way they bring up their kids too.

Anyways, it was a good catch up. Still a bit sensitive, but overtime I hope we will get over this awkwardness. When I rang home this evening to tell my parents I wasn't coming for dinner cos I was meeting up with Ruth, they told me 'pls be careful, don't enter into another friendship with her to have your heart broken again'. It's so funny to hear my parents telling me this. It sounds like a relationship with a boy of something. Even over a boy, they've never said this to me. But yes, I know my parents love me very much cos they've seen time and time again ever since I was 10y.o, my friendship with Ruth how one minute things are so great, the next it turns sooo sour and it is ALWAYS over a boy! (on her part)

Anyway, I feel sick now. I got my dad to break the GIANT easter egg tonight so I could eat it. Everytime I tried to smash it, I end up with a bruise on my hand! cos it's that huge and tough to break! (like a watermelon no kd!) so dad just smashed it at with one go with his hand and the top bit was in broken into pieces. Now the poor egg has a hole at the top. It looks like a chic just hatched out of it! so cute!! I wish I could take a photo of it.. but my camera is still in the hospital getting its flash repaired.... sigh** I hope it'll be ready for my trip to Syd this SUN! which I doubt very much!

p/s I am the wedding coordinator for Justina's wedding at the church as per her request to me this afternoon! man this year is FULL OF WEDDINGS and PLANNINGS! But unlike my qtr life crisis entry back in early Jan, I am soooo looking forward to all of my girlfriend's weddings!! it'll be such a joyous occasion no doubt!