Goodbye my lover..

"Goodbye my lover, Goodbye my friend...

You have been the one, You have been the one for me... "

At the start of the year, there I was saying just how many ppl I know that's getting married! Well guess what? 2 months later, it's the season of break-ups.

I found out my cousin just broke up with her man or should I say the other way around.. after probably about 3yrs of dating..

Then, I heard about my work colleagues Scott and Adam, who just recently broke up with their girlfriends too due to long distance as well as the girl being 'too clingy' etc.

Last week, Cam too had sent out an email to us 3 highschool chix to say she's no longer with her man Tristan as both wanted different things in life.

I think the biggest and most saddest breakup of all is Zita (my P&Ger who came from P&G Hungary 8months ago to fill in the shopper marketing mgr role). All the girls had helped her to prepare for her wedding which was supposed to be in 2 wks. She finally bought her wedding dress last week for $1500 and she's already booked the reception, photographer, florist, invitations and the list goes on and on.

Then yesterday, I went to work early and saw her email sent out to all the CML team members saying 'I'm so sorry to inform you all but my wedding has been cancelled. Julious and I have decided to go out separate ways'. We were all shocked to see the email. Then she finally came into work and all the girls ran to her office to see if she was ok. I just sat in my office as I knew she wouldn't want so many ppl to gather around her at once. Then at around 10am I decided to pop into her office. I closed her door and got her a really nice yummy muesli yogurt from the cafeteria (cos it's both of our favourite breakkie meal) and said 'you got to eat up'. I could see she was a wreck. Terribly exhausted. Her eyes were puffy. Poor girl, she had been crying the whole night w/o any zzz. I asked her, would there be another chance of reconciliation? she said 'no, it's over'. I didn't have to ask her why before she spilled it all out to me with tears in her eyes.

She told me 'I came to Australia for Julious and I always told him, if I'm home sick, can we move back to Hungary? he always said yes of course'. So off she went, dropped her whole life in Hungary to move with her man to Australia for a new life with him. Then, time had passed, he got promoted in his engineering job and he began to love the idea of settling in Australia and wanted her to stay at home as a full-time wife which is absolutely not Zita at all. She on the other hand, still missed her family and friends dearly back home and wanted to work after she has kids etc. He couldn't compromise with her and although they both loved each other, they just couldn't come to an agreement. Zita told me 'Coming to Australia I knew was my first big regret, and if I had gone ahead to marry Julious, that would be the second just so I could cover the first.'

It takes courage to fall in love, to give someone your heart. But it takes greater strength to end a relationship especially when you're still in love with that person but you know deep down 'they're just not the one'. I told Zita just how much I admire her courage to let go of someone you love so dearly because you know in your heart that the two of you can never be...Especially in her instance where she's already invested so much into the r/ship as well as in the preparation of the wedding. For her to cancel the wedding 2wks prior to the actual day is such a brave move. The hours of preparation has now turned into numerous phone calls for cancellations, the embarrassment that she will now bear to all her friends and family now that everything's off, her 2yrs invested into her r/ship with Julious especially since she's already 30y.o. and of course her giving up everything that was going for her in Hungary for the man she was once certain she would marry...

So Zita took off her engagement ring and handed over back to him... he didn't want it and told her to keep it. But she was adamant in her decision and finally he took it and that was the end of her fairytale...

"I am a dreamer but when I wake, you can't break my spirit, it's my dreams you take. And as you move on, remember me, remember us and all we used to be...."